The process is interesting (not yet frustrating); one has to advertise himself or herself, it takes a part of you. But alhamdolillah, I am learning a lot. First off, I am stupid, impatient and childish and that makes it a little scary because it’s not about ps3 vs xbox, or amd vs intel, etc. I wouldn’t be enlisting everything here.. & I won’t give a count of encounters, that’s irrelevant. Few things are worth mentioning though.

“For things to go well, you must marry someone with a common cultural background” – the moment you add the “must” word in this statement, it becomes worthless and depicts a sense of narrow-mindedness. Having it as a preference is something different, and depends on circumstances. In a nutshell, don’t go to a ping-pong player asking for tips on your next sky diving attempt..

“You must marry someone who speaks your native language” – I can buy this .. but still, wouldn’t it be great to learn a new language? what if it’s arabic?!

Abdullah ibn Umar (ra) narrated that the Prophet (saw) said: “Indeed haya (modesty) and Iman are Companions. When one of them is lifted, the other leaves as well.” [Baihaqi] .. IMHO,  this hadeeth encompasses almost everything one should look for in a wife.. subhanAllah.

Istikhara, istikhara, istikhara.. Narrated Jabir bin ‘Abdullah, “The Prophet (Sallal Laho Alaihi Wasallam) used to teach us the way of doing Istikhara, in all matters as he taught us the Suras of the Quran. He said, “If anyone of you thinks of doing any job he should offer a two Rakat prayer other than the compulsory ones and say (after the prayer):

& that’s it .. 🙂