My Ramadan

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Asalamalaikum,

There’s a trend – Muslim bloggers just vanish from the blogosphere when it’s Ramadan, we know why, Alhamdolillah! But we’re almost done; I’ll break the silence, and I don’t want the memories to fade away.

First thing first – this was the best Ramadan of my life, I mean it, seriously. I don’t want to fake up anything.. a weaker faith, the distortions of a messed up mindset, serious lack of guidance, and the hopelessness are a few things that kept me away from staying up in the nights of previous Ramadans.

I am sure that my conclusions won’t be novel enough, but still, I am literally fearing as the last few hours of Ramadan are passing by. I discovered that the actual marathon hasn’t started yet, and that it’ll only end by the start of next Ramadan.. some of us might not see it. The distractions would be numerous and the shayateen would be all out to corrupt our pure thoughts. I seek help from Allah SWT, I am begging for it, I cried for it.

Following few things, I believe, are essentially what I practiced frequently. I pray to Allah SWT to bless us all with the motivation and consciousness to continue the Ramadan lifestyles, Inshallah.

1- TAHAJJUD PRAYERS

Abu Hurairah reports that the Messenger of Allah said: “Our Lord descends to the lowest heaven during the last third of the night, inquiring: ‘Who will call on Me so that I may respond to him? Who is asking something of Me so I may give it to him? Who is asking for My forgiveness so I may forgive him?’” [bukhari]

Take this Hadeeth in a literal sense! It’s not a fantasy and there’s nothing hypothetical about it. Alhamdolillah, can there be anything better than your ability to respond to Allah SWT’s above call by enlisting your halal desires?! And to add to it, think for a second – those who begin their days with such prayers, can there be any sort of satisfaction more worthy than the inner peace they get blessed with?! Subhanallah.

2- DESPAIR NOT THE MERCY

From Surah Al-Talaq (#65): “.. And for those who fear Allah, He (ever) prepares a way out [2] And He provides for him from (sources) he never could imagine. And if anyone puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is (Allah) for him. [3]

Focus; just try to focus on the words of these verses for a moment. Our biggest misery strikes us, when we try to “imagine” the ideal solutions to our problems. But Allah SWT gives us a straight-forward answer – the best of solutions, often a times, are unimaginable. This must end the story for a true believer because there is no logic that could justify that feel of despair – it’s not our responsibility to specify the solutions to Allah SWT in our supplications, and I repeat – it’s not, not at all! But, what’s the pre-condition? Just one – Fear Allah!

3- ASK FOR NOTHING BUT PERFECTION

Scholars try to bring us back to the realization that we need to compromise by coming out of the fantasy where we seek only the ideals – be it a wife, a job, or just about anything else. To a certain extent, I disagree. Compromise and Idealism can go together – realistically, we might have to give up on certain features, but in our supplications, we must not! We must not ask for anything lesser than a perfect outcome!

So our wordings do matter – never settle for less, at least in your duas. Ask Allah SWT to bless you with the best of the bests as per His criteria, and not your own understanding. Finally, what follows is Allah SWT’s decree and that’s where your compromise might come into play.

4- IF YOU ARE LIVING ON A TIGHT BUDGET, GIVE OUT SADAQA!

From Surah Saba’ (#34): “Say: Verily my Lord enlarges and restricts the Sustenance to such of His servants as He pleases: and what you spend in charity He replaces it: for He is the Best of those who grant Sustenance”. Saba 34 : 39

Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) related that Allah’s messenger ( PBUH ) said, “No money ever decreases because of charity; when a servant of Allah forgives, Allah increases him in dignity; and whenever a person humbles himself to Allah, Allah will elevate his status” [Bukhari & Muslim]

This one applies to poor freaks like me. If you are tight on budget to a point where you’ve to cut on your eating-out feasts, it’s about time to follow the strategy suggested above! Just give it a try, I am a living proof! Get rid of the taboo that Sadaqa isn’t for students!

5- BEG FOR FORGIVENESS

From Surah At-Tahrim (#66): “O you who believe! Turn to Allah with sincere repentance: In the hope that your Lord will remove from you your ills .. [8]”

Abu Bakr Al siddiq (May Allah be pleased with him), narrated: “I heard Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) saying: ‘There isn’t a man who, when he commits a sin, rises, makes ablution, and offers two rak’as of prayers, but Allah forgives his sins.

From Surah Az-Zumar (#39): “Tell them (oh Muhammad): ‘My (Allah’s) Servants who have committed excesses against themselves, do not be in despair in the mercy of Allah – surely, Allah forgives all sins. Verily Allah is the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful [53]’”

Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Every son of Adam is a sinner, and the best of sinners are those who turn (to Allah) in repentance.” [Mishkatul-Masabih, Vol. 3, p. 360]

For the sake of brevity, I wish to convey just one idea – You don’t have to commit a sin and you don’t really have to recall some old sins as a pre-condition to seek forgiveness! Shouldn’t we be seeking forgiveness for lack of our thankfulness for the blessings of Allah SWT? Just for a moment, think once – would you have been able to be like one the strong companions of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), if you were living back then? if not, then shouldn’t you be repenting out of fear that you wouldn’t be able to catch up with them on the day of judgment?

With this state of mind, you’ll always be forcing yourself to rise up from your sujoods – and in such a case, Allah SWT will take care of your worldly matters to start with! :->

6- INNER PEACE & A SATISFIED HEART

I don’t have guts to write about this – I am no’t capable enough. Perhaps, there isn’t anything more important than it. It’s not rare that we desire for something (thinking that it will result in ultimate happiness) and when we get it, we are exactly the same person with just one change – we pick a new goal while tricking ourselves to run after it for happiness. All our lives, in general, we run after things one by one, the trail never ends.. we take wrong turns.

To end it, I picked up few quotes from “Don’t be Sad” by Aaidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni:

“It has been said that happiness is an art that needs to be learned. And if you learn it, you will be blessed in this life.. The opposite of being content is being shortsighted,.. Basic to the art of happiness is to bridle our thoughts and to restrain them, not allowing them to wander, stray, escape, or go wild. For if you were to leave your thoughts to wander as they wish, then they will run wild and control you. They’ll open the catalogue of your past woes.. If your thoughts are left to roam, then they will bring to you images of past difficulties and images of a future that is frightening. These thoughts will shake your very being and will cause your feelings to flare. Therefore bridle them, and restrain them by directing them to the concentrated application of the kind of serious thought that begets fruitful and beneficial work.”

Few related supplications:

“O Allah! It is Your mercy that I hope for so do not leave me in charge of my affairs even for a blink of an eye and rectify for me all of my affairs. None has the right to be worshiped except You.”

“O Allah, I take refuge in you from anxiety and sorrow, weakness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice, the burden of debts and from being over-powered by men.”

Just got the news, it’s Eid tomorrow 🙂

May Allah SWT accept our fasts and duas at the commencement of this blessed month,  Assalaam alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuhu!

Don’t Be Sad by Aaidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni

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dontbesad1

Yess.. this book is by all means a pearl of happiness for muslims (both genders)!

I haven’t finished it deliberately.. because the author (may Allah bless him) has induced in the book’s pages such beautiful words that I don’t want to consume all of them at once! The best time for me to open this book is when I am depressed, angry, sad or just feeling isolated.. and guess what I either close this book with a big smile on my face or tears in my eyes for not being enough thankful to Allah Azzawajall – take my challenge, there is no way for a true muslim to read even a single page of this piece of work.. and find nothing that would make him happy and satisfied.

The magic of the book is that it feels like everything that he is talking about is a direct commentary of your life’s circumstances.. and perhaps, this goes with anyone independent of his age, sex, character, and as I came to know, his religion (because the books is very popular among non-muslims too).

I strongly recommend this book to everyone despite of whatsoever he/she thinks about his life’s circumstances. It’s different and trust me, it’s far more thought-provoking that Dan Brown’s cryptic tales and more interesting than all harry potters combined.. the only condition is that you should be absolutely optimistic that reading this book will literally help you in focusing on the righteous perspectives of this little life.

Alhamdolillah, it has around 470 pages, but I haven’t read more than 75-80 pages.. and I feel like it’s already an overwhelming list of advises that definitely changed my perspectives on the way I used to think about things around me!

By the way, I’ve got the Ebook. I’ll be glad to share it with anyone interested. I am desperately looking for (easy) ajar 😉

Asalamalaikum.