Brother Nouman Ali Khan’s advices to youth


Yesterday, I was part of a sleepover with a huge number of muslim brothers and Alhamdolillah, it was an overwhelming experience. Something new for me was to hear fellow brothers chanting “Allah hu Akbar” after scoring a soccer goal, or after sniping out a red team member on some xbox game!

Anyways, the guest was Brother Nouman Ali Khan. I knew him but met for the first time. He was a silent, simple dressed, and a decent person. Like many, I had a glimpse at him when he entered the facility and my eyes chased him until he asked for a basketball and intermingled with the players around.

He led our Isha prayer and his recitation was soothing not only for ears, but for all of our hearts for sure. Following the prayers, we gathered around him, and the humble young sheikh sat in the center, and started his fun-oriented dawah session. His didn’t talk about his work; instead, he took advantage of the youth’s gathering, and talked about its responsibilities. Following are few excerpts I remember:

  1. Spend as much time as possible with elderly people (parents being of foremost importance), and learn from their experiences. The best place to find such elder people is a Masjid.
  2. The classic – choose you friends wisely! Outnumber your bad acquaintances with good practicing muslim brothers. Don’t think that you can improve you bad friends by living amongst them on a daily basis, chances are, that they’ll demote you and your taqwah eventually.
  3. Don’t say that I am bored. Because, it means that you think you don’t have much to do in your life. But being a muslim, we can’t be free enough from our responsibilites (dawah, salah, reading, and doing best to attain a higher level in Jannah, etc.) to get ‘bored’.
  4. You can live without facebook, and text messages. Come out of this loop, and think about what this technology has done to you and your thought process. Try your best to meet people face to face instead of posting messages on their walls. He left facebook because he received requests like “Sister xyz wants to be your friend”.
  5. If you don’t have a beard, then you can do a better job of doing Dawah to people who won’t even look at the faces of beard scholarly men (for advice or knowledge about islam).
  6. Try to drag your discussions (with your fellow non-muslim & muslim friends) in a way that you can convey the stance of Islam on matters of life. Jump into discussions if you see such an opportunity, and never hesitate to say what must be known by them.
  7. Islam needs not to be defensive. Let not people ask you questions about things that they misunderstand about Islam. Smash questions on them about the apparent fallacies in their societies, pinpoint the issues, and present the solutions. Leave them with a big question mark.
  8. Be responsible, you surely have a responsibility. Read more and more of Quran, and use this knowledge to answers questions about your faith.
  9. Don’t give yourself time to be alone. The worst that you can do to yourself is to make room for idleness, which usually ends up in you comitting something that you shouldn’t have. So, the idea is to find activities, and always staying in some good company. One alternative is sports! Go out, and play something with your friends. Indulge in physical activities.
  10. If you have to, then prefer gaming over useless internet browsing because internet is ‘open’ and you have your limits. But gaming itself has to be limited as something that should follow constructive activities. For example, an hour of gaming following by few hours of group study.

That’s it. There was more, but I can’t recall it all.. I am hungry (& single) 😀

I ask for forgiveness from Allah SWT if I misquoted anything on behalf of Brother Nauman; may Allah SWT bless him with the best of this world and hereafter.

Jak. Asalamalaikum.


I appreciate your offer but ..


.. but I am a muslim, Alhamdolillah. Few things before I start:

“And no moving (living) creature is there on earth but its provision is due from Allaah” [Hood 11:6]

“Allaah will destroy Riba” [al-Baqarah 2:276]

“but do not help one another in sin and transgression” [al-Maa’idah 5:2]

Allah Almighty says, “If a person is forced by necessity without willful disobedience or transgressing due limits, thy Lord is oft-forgiving, most merciful.” [Al-An`am: 145]

It took me 4-5 months of job search and interviewing to find a Software Engineering job that suited my extremely fine grained criteria:

  1. I don’t want to relocate,
  2. I don’t deserve a below market-standard salary,
  3. The company must sponsor my *h1 visa*,
  4. The work must be exciting and learning-oriented,
  5. The company can hire non-citizens,
  6. It should be easier for me to practice my religion,
  7. The company should allow me to survive without shaking any female hands,
  8. &  again, I don’t want to relocate!

In today’s economic crisis, none that I know who is looking for a job has any criteria – people JUST need jobs! So perhaps, this was a perfect time for Allah SWT to test me – and it happened.. I got my first job offer after clearing 3 interviews & guess what, the job suited almost perfectly against my criteria.

But, there was something missing in my list –

  • The company must primarily depend on halal sources of income.

And unfortunately, this company was dealing in interest. Although I was a just a leaf-node who was not supposed to be directly concerned with the company’s main buisness, but I don’t give this idea any weight.. because I was supposed to be a “part of it”, while helping it flourish, & taking it easy. I always wanted to avoid such companies, but I was far from making it a solid filter in my job search. But it took me mere seconds to categorize this as a test from Allah SWT.. and hence I decide to pass the trail and reject the offer.

It was not a big deal at all, Alhamdolillah. Although, the offer attracted me in many ways – from a decent salary to free covered parking, & from a cool boss to lamborghini showroom just across the street .. it wasn’t bad 😀 But the more it had to offer, the stronger became my will to decide against it. And just moments ago, I did it.

I feel no insecurity & I feel no hopelessness. I am sure that something good is coming up, be it comprehensible as good in my terms or no, but I am sure that Allah swt has better options in reserve for me!

Now, I may sound like boasting about something I did that I feel is good.. but I had to write this. I just want many to understand that we must not ‘make up’ strong cases of need when we find ourselves facing such trails. There is no need other than finding more ways to please Allah SWT because none of us has signed any contract about the time when we are supposed to meet Azra’eil A.S. (Malakul Mawt). And deep inside, I am dead sure, that we all know that most of the times we choose luxury over hardships by ignoring the commandments of Allah SWT. We abuse the definition of ‘neccessity’.

So be it a beard, a hijab, a strong denial to mix up beyond limits in office parties, to deny to shake opposite gender hands, or the numerous other things that we commit or ignore (while pleasing or displeasing Allah SWT).. trust me, the GOOD is always doable. And, it always end up in something better for us, we don’t see it sometimes, but we can always realize it from the eyes of our Iman.. if we try.

p.s. SCW -> SW -> W -> DONE -> W 😀

Done with academics Period

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  • Twenty four years of examinations, Alhamdolillah, & I am done now.
  • It’s about time to step into the new phase of my life.
  • I am prepared and I am satisfied; I am blessed by all means, Alhamdolillah.
  • I just can’t stop thanking Allah SWT for everything that has been happening around me, with me, for me.

But, there’s always something that keeps me from being ‘absolute’ happy.. I don’t feel like home anywhere. I get suggestions to visit the parents back home, but I am sure that it’s going to add more weight to this melancholy (I wished never to use this word). There are few thing I can talk about though.

I do not ‘party’. Not that I don’t want to, but I just don’t want to damage my Imaan by becoming a part of some celebration that goes beyond the limits set by Allah SWT for Muslims. Now when I do this, I make a whole bunch of people angry at me. And, the situation turns worst when I try to justify the cause of my decisions. Then, I also try my level best to stay away from movies and music. Not that it’s all not attractive to me, but because I don’t want to witness the kissing scenes in transformers2 with no shame and pretend that I didn’t see it. I am a man and I am not kid enough to shade my eyes when 18+ stuff happens. So, I have two options: either I enjoy my Isha prayer; or, I feel the guilt while praying it at 1:00 am because I went to theater and then wasted some time in talking rubbish at starbucks. And finally, I put a period on all discussions that lead to obscenity. So, I lost the ‘fun’ part of my old friends, I lost my friends.

So, I am alone, perhaps by purpose. If good comes, I’ll take it. For all else, I hold up on myself. I’ll force myself to hate that which is not in compliance with The Instruction Set.  I’ll prefer the patience over the useless laugh-out-louds. I’ll wait, Inshallah :>